Most of us, in some fashion, like, to be liked. Who wants to be the one that walks into a room, and no one wants to talk to you?
People need to be liked. If you can get people to like you, you are more likely to succeed in life. It’s the basis of trust, which then leads to credibility. Research shows relationships are vital to happiness, and networking is the key to getting jobs and building a fulfilling career.
So what are some tips to get people to like you? YouTube is littered with “How To Get People To Like You” videos. Here is one video below.
These self-help videos all will have one key element in getting people to like you. If you want people to like you, reflect back and be like the person you want to like you. In this video, it’s called “match and mirror.”
Nicholas Boothman, the author of “How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less,” has spent years coaching business people to be more effective, more relaxed communicators. Assuming rapport is a skill that anyone can learn and deploy within the first two seconds of making someone’s acquaintance.
The goal of assuming rapport, Boothman said, is to “find common ground” or to uncover what’s similar between you two. It can be something as simple as the fact that you drive the same car or you’re wearing the same brand of shirt.
In fact, research suggests that finding common ground is a solid strategy for getting people to like you. According to the “similarity-attraction hypothesis,” we tend to gravitate toward people who are just like us in some capacity, especially when we share similar attitudes and values.
In other words, if you want the world to like you, be worldly, “especially sharing similar attitudes and values.” With what mainstream media, academia, many politicians, and our elitist celebrities tell us – what does “being worldly” mean? Perhaps one today could replace the word “worldly” with the word “woke.”
According to the Oxford English Dictionary, “woke” is now defined as: “Alert to racial or social discrimination and injustice.” This could include all kinds of “woke” topics such as; open borders, LGBTQ+ rights, hate speech suppression – cancel culture, banning guns, CRT, socialism … mostly the political issues we see coming out of the Progressive Left.
But what if you don’t agree with many of these “worldly” or “woke” values? Of course, the world will not like you. It is the inverse of getting people to like you. Hence, we are seeing this play out in our political landscape today. Those that do not subscribe to being “woke” will be ostracised and disliked – even hated.
As a Sunday Thoughts, this does remind me of a Biblical verse that describes this very phenomenon. Consider the following passage in John 15:18-19.
18 “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. 19 If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you.
This being said, not all things coming out of the political Left are evil, and not all things coming out of the conservative political Right is righteous. In some cases, many tend to over-politicize or become too judgemental when it is not necessary or even in our purview. The point is that today morality is under attack. Those that try to defend morality will also be under attack.
Are we to totally disengage from an evil and corrupt world? It will be pretty hard to do this totally, especially if it is in your own family. Where possible, perhaps one can find common ground on lesser issues with those of differing values. In some cases, this may not be possible, and one won’t be able to engage. It will require your discernment and wisdom. Give us your thoughts in the comment section below.
